Happy Mother’s Day!
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As a mother of two beautiful children, I strive to be a “gold star” mom. Read on to learn more about what a gold star mom is, and how to become one!

Be Your Own Best Friend
To be the best mother you can be, you need to be your own best friend. Understand that the people in your life are only booster rockets. You must take yourself the rest of the way.

Maintain Spiritual Balance
A gold star mom has spiritual balance. She knows that codependency is not an option, and that independence is her most treasured asset.

Treasure Your Gift
Being a mother is a gift from the Universe, being a mom is a gift to yourself.  Take pride and treasure your role in the earth by modeling perfection to everyone in your environment.

Make Happiness a Priority
Gold star moms believe they are worthy of love and happiness. They believe that anything is possible, and everything is available.  They are free to give and receive happiness in their life, they are free to choose their own thoughts. 

Stability is Key
Gold-star moms are able to manage the delicate balance between work and family life. They are stable in their emotions and secure in God’s love. They are able to adapt to all circumstances. 

Manage Your Thoughts
To be a gold-star mom, you must care about your thoughts and feelings being in alignment with Universal principles every day. The world can only give you what your vibration demands.

Keep Striving
Every day is another opportunity to get it right. Don’t be hard on yourself if you miss the mark from time to time. Just keep aiming for that star. Best moms are not rare, just hard to find.

​Are you ready for a new season? Are you willing to make a shift and transition to self-empowerment? Well, I have great news for you! It’s a new day, it’s now safe to take your power back and take charge of your life. Read on to learn how to do this for powerful results!

To create a new season, you must analyze your creations, which are the events and circumstances that your subconscious mind has been producing thus far. If you don’t like the direction of your life, then you need a new way of looking at your personal world. There is no reason why you cannot be, do, or have everything that your heart desires. All things are already yours for the taking. 

You have been given God’s nature, His keys, His power, and His authority to create and change anything. Wherever you set your foot (your intention) is yours, but you must first create the scenario in your mind. It must first be an imaginal act in the spirit of your mind. Your natural feet can’t take you where your mind hasn’t been. You must make the changes in your consciousness first before anything else in your external world changes.

You are a powerful being. In this new season you need to get in touch with your inner power, and let go of what doesn’t serve you. Stop feeling guilty for leaving unfruitful alliances and hurtful situations behind. What you left behind needed to be left behind. Go forward fearlessly this month. All of heaven will back you up.

It’s imperative to believe in yourself and refrain from thinking others are better than you are. To believe that another is greater than yourself will cripple you spiritually. No one is better than you or more important. It’s only your perception that makes it so. We were all created equal, meaning we all came to earth with the same measure of God within us. It is up to every individual to do the inner spiritual work that is required to attain self-mastery. This is the very essence of our spiritual growth for our personal journey.

Let us begin to nurture our desires, and our inner child. Empower yourself in this season. Work on temperament weaknesses, self-love and self-forgiveness. Let go of fear of the future now.

Know this beloved: you have the power to change anything in your life that does not bring you joy. You deserve to be joyous every day. 365 times the Bible instructs us to “Rejoice and again I say rejoice”. 
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You are never alone, and you are more than enough. Like the lily flower, everything you need has been hardwired within you. The Creator within you has your back and the angels have their assignment concerning your life. Be anxious for nothing, for all things are already yours. Take more calculated risks and watch the road rise to meet your feet. Strive for a supernatural existence. You can have it, for what you are seeking is seeking you.

#HappyNationalPuppyDay!

Dog is God spelled backwards, a reminder that your dog is God in another form. Your dog is also you in another form.

We live in a vibrational world. That means that everyone, every place, everything, and every event that we attract is a vibrational match to us. Your dog is your manifestation, and you are his. When you are looking for a dog, your vibrational match will navigate its way to you, because who and what you are looking for is also looking for you.

In addition to being great companions, dogs are natural spiritual teachers. They live in the now, not in the past, like Melancholies who hold a grudge. Unlike people, dogs don’t attach themselves to material things. They love to play with the people they love and are completely loyal to their masters no matter how they are treated. They are not a fair-weather friend. They love unconditionally and can teach selfish people how to do the same.

We are not linear beings having a linear experience. We are dimensional beings having a dimensional experience.  Very few things are what they appear to be. Having a dog will help you to see the possibilities in the spirit realm. They can hear what we can’t hear, see what we can’t see, understand beyond what we think they can understand, and can even detect illness in their owners.

Energetically, dogs cause a shift in the dynamics of their owner’s life. As they connect to the owner’s emotional body, they will absorb stress and illness and can even save their life.
The key is to get a dog with a temperament close to your own. See my book, “Temperament: Your Spiritual DNA”, for more insight on this subject. Some dogs also have a temperament better suited for young children. Choose a child-friendly dog that can grow emotionally with your child. 

Loving a pet, be it a dog or a cat, can make you a new person and extend your life.  Nursing homes understand this phenomena. Stroking them and allowing them in your personal space will powerfully change your stress hormones by helping you to overcome past experiences that have caused your emotional blocks.

I have been blessed to have two dogs in my adult life: Bliss, a German Shepherd mix, and Jireh, a Dalmatian. Both were adopted from shelters and taught my family and I many wonderful lessons. We are still grateful for the memories. By adopting a pet from your local shelter, you can experience the same happiness and love.

If you will be travelling to the St. Thomas, USVI and are interested in adopting a dog or cat, please visit the Humane Society - Pets With Wings Animal Rescue Center . This is the shelter where my niece adopted the most precious dog, a miniature poodle named “Beni”.

Here is more information about selecting a pet to suit your needs:

How to Choose the Perfect Dog Breed Just for You
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How to Choose the Best Dog for You

#HappyInternationalWomensDay!
                            
Today I want to tell you about harnessing your personal power!

Women are the most powerful creatures, when they are wise and loving.  The Jewish sages said that women came to earth possessing intuition. This is why the Scriptures refer to wisdom in the female gender. Males developed intuition after they got here. This is why men and women are so different. What am I saying? Don’t deny your God-given power by accepting the world-view that you are a victim because you were abused or had a negative life situation in the past.

We must be ever mindful that we are not victims, but victorious overcomers in the Christ mind.  What is the Christ mind? It is the inner knowing that you have the power to create your own reality, now in this moment, by focusing on what you want instead of what happened in the past. The more you focus on the past, the more you are practicing that vibration, and attracting more of what you don’t want. Let us be wise with what we give our attention to, what we think and what we say. It is all creating our future.

The world is a noisy place.  The good news is we don’t have to let it in.

We can choose not to partake of its toxicity. Did you know that you add to the noise when you air out tragic and sad stories, with the good intention of helping someone?  We must realize that we are the first partaker of our words. If we don’t tell a new victorious story, we will never change our lives. What helps us and other people is relating how we overcame the obstacles, abuse, and negative experiences in our life. Spend much more time talking about your victories and much less on your struggles. That is what really helps people.

The world is looking for answers.  All answers are within us because we have the nature and the power of God within us.  Light and darkness cannot occupy the same space. So let’s choose to shine our light and the darkness of our dismal past will have no more power over us.

We have all wittingly and unwittingly given our power away. Those days are over. Let us now claim back our power. It’s all about intentional focus and self-belief. Focus on being, doing and having better than the best experiences, and you will have what it takes to bring wholeness, joy and manifestation into your life and into this world.
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Shalom Creators! Be blessed.

Today is Valentine's Day, and I'd like to share a special message with you about the real meaning of love.
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Love is more than a feeling.  Love is a choice we make every day about ourselves.

If we don’t choose to love ourselves to obtain the best in every situation, then the Universe is not obligated to release the best in our lives.

The love of self is the beginning of all love, it has little to do with economics, and more to do with the contents of the treasure chest that resides in the heart and mind of every individual.

Without self-love we are all martyrs and victims, just waiting for yet another toxic encounter with life.
Our experiences in life are merely mirroring on the outside how we feel about ourselves on the inside.

Our creations are always an inside job. 

Valentine’s Day is a reminder, we cannot give away what we do not possess.

Love is the nature and the power of God within us, by loving self-first, all relationships are balanced. And our ability to be deliberate creators is certain.

Whether you are single, in a relationship or married, the most important person you will ever love is YOURSELF! Be sure to practice self-love every day. Shalom Creators!

Shalom, and welcome to the Higher Conscious Counseling blog. I am Dr. Phyllis Pole, Certified Temperament Therapist.

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